Finding “Yoyu” [Excerpt 6]

It was a long drive to either hospital, so we didn’t visit Okasan every day. I knew that she would be OK and that the real reason I stayed in Hiroshima that summer was to be with Otosan.

One of the days we stayed home and didn’t go to visit Okasan was my 43rd birthday. That morning, I told Otosan, and all he said was, “oh, really?” Birthdays were not something a lot of Japanese people from his generation celebrated. Akira had already texted me a birthday wish, so I knew I would have to celebrate the rest of the day on my own.

After breakfast, Otosan went outside to work somewhere on the property, probably in his vegetable patch down by the river. I was supposed to be on my computer doing some correspondence. I decided to walk around the far side of the rice field to check in with the river instead. A much better way to spend my birthday morning, I thought.

Watch Excerpt #6 above from Finding “Yoyu” to hear about who made trouble for Otosan in the rice field.

Having trouble visualizing the landscape? Here is a picture of the river on the far side of the rice field. You can see a bit of the rice field on the right.

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About the book:

A few years ago, we moved my husband’s parents from a rural part of Japan to live with us in Tokyo in our tiny 800 square foot (73 square-meter) condo. My book, Finding “Yoyu,” is about what it took to decide to move them. It’s also about navigating the Japanese health care system and finding an appropriate nursing home for my mother-in-law while helping my father-in-law transition from a lifetime of farming to retirement in the big city. It’s about how we discovered he had Alzheimer’s and my husband had stage 3 colon cancer. It’s about how I managed to support these two men and keep (or find!) my yoyu all while going through a career change.

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About the Author:

Hi! I'm Marci. When I'm not writing, building websites, or coaching clients, I love walking the streets of Japan and discovering spirit in all shapes and forms. Here on the blog, you'll also get a peek into what it is like to live with and care for my Japanese father-in-law who has Alzheimer’s. Enjoy!


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