Finding “Yoyu” [Excerpt 11]

One day, Otosan did not come in for breakfast like usual. I knew he was somewhere on the property because I heard the front door open and shut around 5:00AM. When he finally came in at 9:00, he was very excited.

As soon as he was done eating, Otosan started to tell me about the big fish in the river. He had been trying to convince everyone of that big fish for as long as I could remember. I suggested that he call for me next time so that I could take a picture of it. Then we could show everyone the picture and put an end to their doubt.

Even after he came to live with us in Tokyo, Otosan rarely got angry with me. That day, however, was memorable because it was the first.

Listen or watch the excerpt above to hear more about Otosan’s big fish, the nature spirits around the family property, and what made Otosan angry.

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About the book:

A few years ago, we moved my husband’s parents from a rural part of Japan to live with us in Tokyo in our tiny 800 square foot (73 square-meter) condo. My book, Finding “Yoyu,” is about what it took to decide to move them. It’s also about navigating the Japanese health care system and finding an appropriate nursing home for my mother-in-law while helping my father-in-law transition from a lifetime of farming to retirement in the big city. It’s about how we discovered he had Alzheimer’s and my husband had stage 3 colon cancer. It’s about how I managed to support these two men and keep (or find!) my yoyu all while going through a career change.

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About the Author:

Hi! I'm Marci. When I'm not writing, building websites, or coaching clients, I love walking the streets of Japan and discovering spirit in all shapes and forms. Here on the blog, you'll also get a peek into what it is like to live with and care for my Japanese father-in-law who has Alzheimer’s. Enjoy!



  1. Mikaela Hicks on February 5, 2021 at 9:33 AM

    Really enjoying the story!

    • Marci on February 7, 2021 at 11:49 AM

      Thank you! I’m so glad you are following along. It buoys me on to post the next, and the next….

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