Finding “Yoyu” [Excerpt 2]

We laid side by side with our futons pulled next to each other. With no central heating, I could see my husband’s breath. We had our electric blankets turned up high, but it was so cold in the room that we both wore scarves and hoodies.

When he turned to look at me, all I could see were his eyes and nose. There was no doubt in my mind that it was time for us to step in and care for Akira’s parents. I could see in his eyes that there was no doubt in his mind either. We knew.

When we looked at each other in the dark, we knew that we weren’t starting a new stage. The new stage had begun without us and we needed to decide how we wanted to participate. Though so many of the days following have blurred together, that night in the cold dark room is still crystal clear.

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About the book:

A few years ago, we moved my husband’s parents from a rural part of Japan to live with us in Tokyo in our tiny 800 square foot (73 square-meter) condo. My book, Finding “Yoyu,” is about what it took to decide to move them. It’s also about navigating the Japanese health care system and finding an appropriate nursing home for my mother-in-law while helping my father-in-law transition from a lifetime of farming to retirement in the big city. It’s about how we discovered he had Alzheimer’s and my husband had stage 3 colon cancer. It’s about how I managed to support these two men and keep (or find!) my yoyu all while going through a career change.

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About the Author:

Hi! I'm Marci. When I'm not writing, building websites, or coaching clients, I love walking the streets of Japan and discovering spirit in all shapes and forms. Here on the blog, you'll also get a peek into what it is like to live with and care for my Japanese father-in-law who has Alzheimer’s. Enjoy!


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