Finding “Yoyu” [Excerpt 22]

After Otosan got lost on the way home, I knew we could no longer ignore his condition except that I wasn’t sure what we should do or who we should ask.

The Social Worker at Okasan’s hospital was quick to recognize the signs. She knew about Otosan getting lost on the way home from the hospital. She had also overheard Otosan in story-telling mode. She observed his behavior when we were playing cards. She also noticed how grumpy Otosan got while waiting for me to finish visiting with Okasan.

When I asked the Social Worker for advice, she wasn’t surprised. She was ready with the contact information and recommended we see a specialist to have Otosan formally tested.

In late February, only one week after Otosan got lost, we got to see the specialist. The day of the evaluation was validating and devastating at the same time.

Listen to the latest excerpt above to find out how the day went and what the doctor said about Otosan’s condition.

If you missed any of the previous excerpts, you can find the playlist here.

About the book:

A few years ago, we moved my husband’s parents from a rural part of Japan to live with us in Tokyo in our tiny 800 square foot (73 square-meter) condo. My book, Finding “Yoyu,” is about what it took to decide to move them. It’s also about navigating the Japanese health care system and finding an appropriate nursing home for my mother-in-law while helping my father-in-law transition from a lifetime of farming to retirement in the big city. It’s about how we discovered he had Alzheimer’s and my husband had stage 3 colon cancer. It’s about how I managed to support these two men and keep (or find!) my yoyu all while going through a career change.

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About the Author:

Hi! I'm Marci. When I'm not writing, building websites, or coaching clients, I love walking the streets of Japan and discovering spirit in all shapes and forms. Here on the blog, you'll also get a peek into what it is like to live with and care for my Japanese father-in-law who has Alzheimer’s. Enjoy!


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