Finding “Yoyu” [Excerpt 3]
Before his mother’s surgery, Akira and I rarely talked about the future because we both already knew that someday the care of his parents would fall to us. That “someday” always seemed so far away, especially when his parents were so capable.
I didn’t question the “someday” plan because in Japanese families, traditionally, the eldest son takes on the responsibility of caring for the parents when they are no longer able to care for themselves.
Unlike Akira, Otosan wasn’t the eldest son. A spot on a popular TV show showcased how at 15 years old, Otosan volunteered during WWII for the special forces that we know about in English as Kamikaze.
About the book:
A few years ago, we moved my husband’s parents from a rural part of Japan to live with us in Tokyo in our tiny 800 square foot (73 square-meter) condo. My book, Finding “Yoyu,” is about what it took to decide to move them. It’s also about navigating the Japanese health care system and finding an appropriate nursing home for my mother-in-law while helping my father-in-law transition from a lifetime of farming to retirement in the big city. It’s about how we discovered he had Alzheimer’s and my husband had stage 3 colon cancer. It’s about how I managed to support these two men and keep (or find!) my yoyu all while going through a career change.
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About the Author:
Hi! I'm Marci. When I'm not writing, building websites, or coaching clients, I love walking the streets of Japan and discovering spirit in all shapes and forms. Here on the blog, you'll also get a peek into what it is like to live with and care for my Japanese father-in-law who has Alzheimer’s. Enjoy!