Finding “Yoyu” [Excerpt 8]

Summer, in the Hiba mountains, feels just right. It’s cool enough that you need a blanket at night, and during the day, it’s hot enough to make you sweat without being unbearable. Therefore, on the days we didn’t go into town to see Okasan, Otosan spent most of his time outside unless it was mealtime.

On one of those days, I had been on my computer all morning. I decided not to call Otosan back for lunch and figured he would show up eventually when he got tired or hungry. Sure enough, around 2:30, he came in looking for tea.

We decided to skip lunch, and I made green tea in the way Okasan taught me. I brought out a few snacks to nibble, and Otosan started talking about his childhood. I loved his stories, but that day, I started to wonder if he would ever stop. While nodding my head as I listened, I pulled out my iPhone and turned on the stopwatch…

Watch the video above to find out how long Otosan talked and what happened the following day that gave me another big hint that he might be dealing with Alzheimer’s.

Watch Excerpt #8 above from Finding “Yoyu” to learn more.

If you missed any of the excerpts, you can find the playlist here.

About the book:

A few years ago, we moved my husband’s parents from a rural part of Japan to live with us in Tokyo in our tiny 800 square foot (73 square-meter) condo. My book, Finding “Yoyu,” is about what it took to decide to move them. It’s also about navigating the Japanese health care system and finding an appropriate nursing home for my mother-in-law while helping my father-in-law transition from a lifetime of farming to retirement in the big city. It’s about how we discovered he had Alzheimer’s and my husband had stage 3 colon cancer. It’s about how I managed to support these two men and keep (or find!) my yoyu all while going through a career change.

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About the Author:

Hi! I'm Marci. When I'm not writing, building websites, or coaching clients, I love walking the streets of Japan and discovering spirit in all shapes and forms. Here on the blog, you'll also get a peek into what it is like to live with and care for my Japanese father-in-law who has Alzheimer’s. Enjoy!


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